What 5th graders
in a school divorce
group said about
Dad's House for KIDS:
- "It's not like other books, it helps a lot"
- "It will warn you about those dangerous surprises"
- "It helped me connect with other people's feelings"
- "It helped me understand things I didn't understand before."
- "It'll help you through divorce if you're unsure"
- "Great for kids who are in a horrible divorce"
- "I'm going to make my older brother read it"
- "I'm bringing this home so my Dad and I can read it together"
- "It really helps you understand"
- "A great book. I understand things more"
- "It's a good book for parents and kids"
- "I think this will help parents if they read it."
- "I use the "Feel Good" list all the time"
For Parents and Professionals
"The CoParenting Toolkit will likely become the resource
manual for coparents, their attorneys, and mediators…"
—Claire N. Barnes, MA, Executive Director, Kids' Turn
"Best I have seen in this kind of book!... has more useful and practical information in fewer pages than any other author on this topic. It's actually fun to read."
—Philip Reedy, MA, former Education Coordinator, California Statewide Office of Family Court Services
Interactive, Practical, Easy to Use
This book is packed with a treasure trove of fresh new strategies including advanced versions of selected time-tested solutions from its partner, the comprehensive classic, Mom's House, Dad's House.
- Enhance your strengths
- Use 3 essential Guides for success
- Heal hurt and hard feelings
- Manage successful emails, texts, meetings
- Healthy schedules and transitions
- Upgrade your Parenting Plan
problem-solving guides, parenting tips, and much more…
Dr. Ricci has done it again! The CoParenting Toolkit will likely become
the resource manual for co-parents, their attorneys, and mediators
trying to navigate the complexities of coparenting in today's world. The practical
recommendations and hints for success are worth the price of the book. The
vignettes help parents know there are others who have similar, yet solvable
problems. Kids' Turn is pleased to recommend this to families enrolled in our
— Claire N. Barnes, MA
Executive Director, Kids' Turn
Best I have seen in this kind of book! Isolina Ricci has managed to get
more useful and practical information in fewer pages than any other
author on this topic. It's actually fun to read. The CoParenting Toolkit is easy on the eye, and the layout allows readers to digest material rapidly. This book is a fit for a high school level reader or a professor in psychology—and that is hard to accomplish. I am looking forward to distributing this book to my colleagues in
the family court and parent education.
—Phillip Reedy, MA
Family Court Mediator, former Education Coordinator,
California Statewide Office of Family Court Services
In this new book, Isolina Ricci provides a rich, concise, and highly
readable manual for parents coping with the difficult process of
coparenting after divorce. She expands upon ideas presented in her classic
book, Mom's House, Dad's House, by giving parents specific guidelines to help
them navigate the confusing process of learning how to negotiate parenting
together after divorce. In a reader-friendly format, Dr. Ricci helps parents define
their goals and provides them with tools that will make coparenting work for
them. This is an excellent resource that belongs on the shelves of all
professionals who work with divorced parents.
— Constance Ahrons, Ph.D.
Author of The Good Divorce and We're Still Family
The CoParenting Toolkit is one of those books you hope every single
parent and coparent will read and use. It's practical, inspiring, and easyto-
use. The Quizzes and Guidelines were my favorites.
—Linda Delbar, BSN, School Nurse (retired)
Divorce is a maelstrom with potentially devastating consequences for both
parents and children. Isolina Ricci's CoParenting Toolkit provides an eminently
do-able set of steps to help calm the storm and create a constructive parenting
plan for the whole family's benefit. This is an enormous contribution to the
cause of effective parenting and the well-being of the children of divorce.
—Jeff Gillenkirk, author of Home, Away
The CoParenting Toolkit is a very helpful book. Parents will appreciate Dr.
Ricci's kindly encouragement, practical tips, and wise advice. After reading
this book parents will understand the meaning of coparenting and be better
prepared to decide whether or how it might work for them and their children.
—Professor Nancy Ver Steegh,
William Mitchell College of Law
Dr. Ricci continues to offer practical, positive structures for parents. Toolkit is
also a map to new parenting destinations and can be kept close-at-hand
while the new routes are learned.
—Hon. Susan Snow, (Ret), Family Law Judge,
Past-President of Association of Family and Conciliation Courts
MOM'S HOUSE, DAD'S HOUSE FOR KIDS
"..give your children a copy of "Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids" by Isolina Ricci, even if they're living only at your house."
—Marguerite Kelly, Washington Post
The "How To Book of the Week"-NEWSDAY
For Kids and Parents on
divorce, stepfamilies, and staying strong
This wonderful book is a quick but profound must-read for parents, a lifesaving handbook for kids. Find immediate, concrete, and practical solutions! Get an inside look at how to help kids reduce anxiety, accept family changes, encourage skill building, self-esteem, resilience, and family teamwork. It's alive with examples, stories, tips, ways to solve problems, "words to try". This is a book parents can trust. 12 Chapters, 271 pages.
Upbeat, practical, wise, a must-read for parents!
What the Kids Said About the Books
"It's not like other books, it helps a lot" -Katlyn "It will warn you about those dangerous surprises" -Rosalind. "It helped me connect with other people's feelings" -Billy "It helped me understand things I didn't understand before." -Tina "It'll help you through divorce if you're unsure" -Khal "Great for kids who are in a horrible divorce" -Loony "I'm going to make my older brother read it" -Girl "I'm bringing this home so my Dad and I can read it together" -Boy "It really helps you understand" -Crystal "A great book. I understand things more" -Louie "It's a good book for parents and kids" -Chris "I think this will help parents if they read it." -Boy "I use the "Feel Good" list all the time" -Boy
"Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is outstanding. In clear, non-condescending and understandable language Dr. Ricci gives children of divorce the tools to navigate the complications arising from their parents' divorce. Her common sense and practical approach to stepfamilies, moving between parents, managing friends and school and the myriad of issues children of divorce face is refreshing. Her teaching guides children to avoid shame and blame around their parents' divorce and provides tools to help them live a life driven by positive values, self-respect, service and the mission of developing their talents. Dr. Ricci's wisdom will inspire all who read this wonderful book."
-William J. Howe, III, Family Law Attorney, Former Chair,
Oregon Task Force on Family Law
"This book is not simply another "how to" for kids, it is a door to another realm where the world of tweens and teens is center stage; where the best that law, psychology and wisdom have to offer is translated into their terms; and where the tragedy of parental divorce can become a transformation of understanding, growth and maturity for the older child."
-John Kydd, MSW, JD, Past President,
Association of Family and Conciliation Courts
"This book speaks to kids in a way they can understand...it is easy to flip to a section and find immediate, concrete and practical solutions...yet the messages are powerful, profound, and wise. The book empowers kids of all ages to play an active role in managing their own lives and emotions..."
-Ellen Shatz, Ph.D., licensed psychologist,
child custody evaluator, parent educator.
"Isolina Ricci has done it again! With the same insight, compassion and wisdom she provides to parents, Dr. Ricci now offers children hopeful solutions to living life in a dual-household family. A timely book that teaches children how to be resilient as they cope with difficult emotions after a parental divorce."
-Constance Ahrons, Ph.D., author,
The Good Divorce and We're Still Family
"Ricci has a gentle touch that kids are sure to respond to. She earns their trust by treating with respect the issues that loom large for children but might escape a preoccupied adult's notice...the book includes several great tools, like "Words to Try" feature-suggested phrases to help kids articulate their feelings."
The "HOW-TO BOOK OF THE WEEK",
Newsday, May 22, 2006
"When I was 7, my parents got divorced. I am now 18, and looking back I realize how confused I was about the breakup. Recently, my dad gave me an advanced copy of Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids, and asked for my opinion on the book. With the intention of only skimming a few pages, I found myself unable to put it down, and read the book in its entirety. I was amazed at the clear, simple, and compassionate way Dr. Ricci answered questions about divorce that baffled me in the past. The thing that impressed me most about Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids was the consistent positive message it conveyed. Without preaching, the book encourages children to make and fulfill positive goals, respect themselves and others, and above all come to acceptance about their parent's divorce. I know this book would have helped me in the past, and I would highly recommend it to any child going through divorce."
"I am pleased to offer wholehearted support for Dr. Isolina Ricci's newest book "Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids". Dr. Ricci has taken difficult topics and presented solutions for kids who are lost in the middle of their parents' separation or divorce. We will recommend this book in our Kids' Turn workshops conducted in six San Francisco Bay Area counties."
-Claire Barnes, Executive Director, Kids Turn
"Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is a wonderful book, full of common sense, practical advice, and above all, love. It will help every child troubled by a divorce, separation, or other family problem. This is a much-needed tool to support and guide children as well as parents."
-Riane Eisler author of "The Chalice and The Blade" and
"The Real Wealth of Nations"
"Dr. Ricci's book is a must read for children whose parents are separating or going through a divorce. No other book gives children the information they need and as well as practical tools to handle the fallout from the divorce. Indeed, the book is also a must read for parents to enable them to understand how their children can cope with that fallout."
-Justice Donald B. King (Ret.)
"With decades of seasoned experience with divorcing families behind her, Isa reveals deep understanding and profound compassion for what children actually experience when their parents split up...It is challenging to try, in one book, to address a range of ages, developmental stages and the countless circumstances involved in the complex arena of divorce. Isa Ricci was clearly up to the task, and in the end covered a wide territory and covered it well. This book will stand the test of time, giving hope and help to the next generation of children of divorce. I strongly recommend this book to all of your child clients whose parents have parted ways."
-Family Mediation News, Spring 2006, Don Saposnek, Ph.D.
"This straightforward book manages to speak to kids, in their language, in a way kids can understand. Issues are presented in a clear, concise manner, and in segments simple and easy to understand, yet the messages contained in the book are powerful, profound, and wise. The book is organized so it is easy for the reader to flip to a section of interest and find immediate, concrete and practical solutions...What I love most of all is the book empowers kids of all ages to play an active role in managing their own lives and emotions following their parent's divorce...it gives children a sense of control and mastery over the confusion and chaos they often experience when the family structure changes. Isolina Ricci's many years of working with children and families shines through with her wisdom and knowledge, giving children a beacon of light to help them navigate and normalize the confusing issues that occur when one's parent's divorce. Hurray for a book like this whose time is long overdue!"
-Jane Ellen Shatz, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
"...and give your children a copy of "Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids" by Isolina Ricci, even if they're living only at your house."
"Stick with Counseling for Children of Divorce"
The Washington Post, June 9, 2006
MOM'S HOUSE, DAD'S HOUSE
For Parents and Professionals
"This book should be a required textbook for every divorcing parent".
— Michael J. Ostrow, Past President,
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
The classic guide for divorce, shared parenting, self-care, parenting plans, and mediation
Often called "the bible", this is the comprehensive guide that people return to again and again. The latest edition has 5 more chapters and 100 additional pages on family law, custody, dealing with the other parent, mediation, Parenting Plans, meeting children's needs, one and two homes, building your family, and much more. 20 Chapters, 8 Appendices, 381 pages.
"If you are a divorced or divorcing parent, you need to read it. Even more, your children need you to have read it. And they need you not just to read it when you separate, but to own a copy and keep on using it."
"This book should be a required textbook for every divorcing parent. If both parents would read even designated portions and have meaningful dialogue, it could result in the substantial reduction of stress in what is very often the most difficult period in one's life. At the same time it could help avoid or reduce the traumatic effects that divorce usually causes to the children."
-Michael J. Ostrow, President,
American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
"For 17 years, I have insisted that hundreds of my clients read and use Mom's House, Dad's House, the "Dr. Spock" of joint parenting books. The revised edition is a must-have resource manual."
-Joel Edelman, lawyer, mediator, counselor, and author,
The Tao of Negotiation
"Specifically geared to meet the needs of today's parents, this is the definitive hands-on resource for all people dealing with the difficult, often heartbreaking experience of ending an intimate relationship--and the effects it has on their children. Filled with real-life examples, helpful self-tests, and step-by-step guidelines, this book offers compassionate, common-sense advice."
-Juvenile and Family Court Journal
"...the new edition is even better than the first - if that is possible. What was a classic has now become one of the defining texts in the field. It is must reading for any parent transiting divorce and any professional who seeks to help them."
-Family and Conciliation Courts Review
"This is a wonderful book. In clear and eloquent language, Isolina Ricci charts a constructive course for divorcing parents. The chief benefactors of this modern classic will be the children."
-Richard Louv, author of
Childhood's Future and The Web of Life
"In seventeen years of family practice, I've given many books to my parent clients, but none helped them heal like Mom's House, Dad's House. If you want to strengthen the heart of your family and come out of the divorce process a stronger, wiser and more peaceful parent--this book is your friend."
-John Kydd, family law attorney and Past President, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts
"This is an upbeat, wise, eminently practical guide for divorcing parents and the professionals who help them. Highly recommended."
-Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D., author, Second Chances
"Mom's House, Dad's House is sensible, sensitive, and amazingly comprehensive: an invaluable resource from a pioneer in this field."
-Riane Eisler, author, The Chalice and the Blade, Sacred Pleasure, The Partnership Way
"Mom's House, Dad's House is a wonderful resource for parents before and after separation, providing guidance about how to maintain their roles as parents so as to minimize the effect of the separation on their children. This book gives parents a roadmap of the problems which can arise, how to resolve them and, indeed, how to avoid them."
-Justice Donald B. King, California Court of Appeal (Retired)